Back at the Oaks

So I’m back at Oakwood College now, and I have been frequenting Wal-Mart to make my new apartment look and feel cozy. As I drove into Huntsville I started to get sad…not because school was starting again, but because my time at Oakwood is almost over. Now there are some bright sides because the end of my Oakwood experience results in my getting married, graduating, and going to medical school, but it is still kind of scary. When a freshman asked me what my classification was, and I told them “Senior”, I had to pinch myself. When I think of “Seniors” I think of people that pretty much know it all, that have it all together, are older and mature, etc. I don’t feel like I fit any of those categories; I still feel very young…not like an almost 21 year old. Ok, so now that I’m done with my early midlife crisis venting session I can move on. This upcoming year is looking like a doozy (is that a word?). I’m president of the Oakwood Bio-Medical Association this year, so I have to get the schedule ready, so the medical and graduate schools can decide when they want to come. It is very weird being in such a leadership position, but hopefully it will teach me how to be more organized.

Here is my current medical school application status:

School

App Fee

2º App Received

2º App Complete

2º App Mailed out

LORs sent

Interview

Accepted?

Total 1st Year Costs

Howard University

$45

            $18,498

University of Maryland

$70

X

X

X

X

    $31, 765

Morehouse University

$50

X

X

X

X

    $51,645

University of Cincinnati

$25

X

X

X

X

    $65, 117
Vanderbilt University

$50

            $51,050
Emory University

$90

X

X

        $60,222

Loma Linda University

$75

X

X

X

X

    $49, 465

Meharry Medical College

$60

X

X

X

X

    $30, 660
SECONDARY TOTAL: $ 465

Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight. Pro. 3:5,6 (NIV)


As you can see, I’m complete at all but 3 schools. Howard has yet to release their secondary to anyone…that is really annoying. If they wait much longer, I’m not going to feel like filling out that thing. If they aren’t pressed about getting new students, then I’m not pressed about applying. I’ve done everything I need to do for Emory, except send them my LORs and pay the secondary fee. Money has been looking EXTREMELY tight lately, so I’ll defiantly have to hold off on that application. If anything I may ask my grandma (gotta love her) for some help in paying the $90 secondary fee, because I think I might really like that school. And finally, I haven’t passed the screening process yet for Vanderbilt, so we will see how that goes. It feels good to be complete at most of the schools I want to attend. Some people I know haven’t even finished their AMCAS yet, which is really crazy to me. But I think it just all plays into the reasons why African Americans don’t get accepted to many schools. For some reason we like to do things late. I can’t even tell you how many times I’ve heard friends say to me that they submitted on time because they got their secondary in before the deadline date. They truly don’t realize that people are submitting their secondary applications 1 week after they are first available. I truly believe that if most African Americans applied to schools like most neurotic premeds on SDN do, our acceptance rate would be much higher.

Wedding planning is rolling along quite nicely, and I’m really excited about it all. My mom told me that I’ve wanted a wife since I was 4 years old, and I’m glad that the Lord allowed me to get married so early. I’ve never liked the whole dating scene…there are too many ups and downs, and they usually end down. My parents met when they were 16, and got married when they were 20, and have been happily married for 25 years, so I know it is possible. A lot of my friends have told me that they are too young to settle down, and I don’t really understand that. What more is there to do, that will be hindered by being married? Is it traveling the world, bedding as many women as possible, enjoying the club scene, or becoming financially stable? All of these seem like lame excuses to me and for some people I think I know the real reason. For a lot of kids, their idea of what marriage is supposed to be like was formed by observing their parents completely dysfunctional marriage. Many times marriages like those end in divorce, which I believe drives the kid to believe that marriage really can’t work, or if it does work then there must be constant turmoil and fighting. Now I’m not Dr. Phil, but I believe people can gain confidence in marriage by observing the ones that work…well. I learned somewhere that the institution of marriage was set up to remind us of our relationship with God…so take that for whatever it is worth.

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