The horse is made ready for the day of battle, but victory rests with the Lord. (Psalms 21:31)

These words spoken by King Solomon truly sum up what the last several months have been for me. I had trials in every aspect of my life; some attendings were attempting to ruin my hopes for a fellowship match, and everything else was on the rocks…my marriage, my health, and my relationship with God. I could not understand why all of this was happening; I thought I had done everything as right as I possibly could. Like Job, I was challenging God to show my why I deserved all of this and you know what He told me…nothing.

Sometimes it is just your time to be tested; you may never get an answer as to why.

With that said, God has revealed his character to me more in the last several months than I have seen in my whole life. I have grown in every facet of my life, and while the process was oh SO PAINFUL, I am a better man today, and I am continuing to grow daily. There is so much I want to share, over the next several posts, but for now I will report the following testimonies:

  1. Despite other’s best efforts, I did match at the top pediatric orthopaedic fellowship in the country, UC-San Diego/ Rady’s Children’s Hospital! I’m still on cloud 9 and can’t wait to spend my year in a place that has produced so many leaders in the field, and that also happens to have 85 deg weather year round :-).
  2. My marriage was great before, but it is even better now. There is so much I have learned about what it means to be a surgery resident and a husband that I wish I had known before i started back in 2011. I will share these nuggets in ensuing posts.
  3. My health is better than ever. I lost 24 lbs and my BMI is finally normal lol.
  4. God has blessed my research efforts.

I can truly say that God has given me the victory over almost all of the trials i was dealing with. But as the text above says, I first had to make my horse ready for battle; meaning I had to put in the work and preparation in order to get to a place that God could truly give me that victory. For those trying to get into medical school, or drinking from a fire hydrant of information in medical school, and walking around like a over worked zombie in residency, remember that the victory truly does rest with the Lord; simply do your best, put in the required preparation, and God will take care of the rest.

In my next post I will talk about how to be a husband who “loves his wife as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5)” and be a competent orthopaedic surgery resident.


P.S.- Thank you to all who left comments of encouragement in my last post. While I did not respond to all of them, I read all of them at least 4 times over. They certainly helped me to weather the storm.

8 Responses to Victory

  1. QTipp says:

    Praise God. There are 2 passages that come to mind after reading your post:

    Ps 50:15 “Call upon Me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you, and you shall glorify Me.”
    Prov 16:3 “Commit your works to the Lord, And your thoughts will be established.”

    I rejoice with you, especially about your marriage. I’m interviewing now for surgical residency and I’m looking forward to your advice on how to make my marriage work.

    Blessings… good to hear God is working on your behalf.

  2. Emnet says:

    Congratulations! You are truly blessed.

  3. Allen Fumbanks Jr. says:

    I have been following your journey since you were in college. Your faith along with your dedication to your family and medicine set a tremendous example for so many people. Congratulations on your success and know that you and yours are in my family’s prayers.

  4. Yande says:

    Congratulations!! Praying for you, and looking forward to your next post!

  5. Kimberly says:

    Glad you’re back and better than ever!! Do you or your wife have a Facebook or an instagram page so that we can keep up with you two in between posts? Also, as a Black female premed student I’d love to learn more about your wife’s experience with medicine. Does she have a blog as well? Thank you for sharing your life with us!

    • DoctaJay says:

      Hi Kimberly, my wife is much more reserved than me so doesn’t blog. I would encourage you to join the Facebook groups called Mocha Medicine and Artemis. Both are for black female doctors and those people can really help you navigate this crazy journey.

  6. PerpetualStudent says:

    This is great news! I’ve been following your story since you and your wife started med school and it is so inspiring (me halfway through a longggg Md/PhD program) to see your hard work come to fruition (with God’s blessing, of course!)

    I would love to hear more about your family life-how you play the roles of surgeon, husband, father 🙂

    blessings 🙂

  7. Thank you for sharing, I am very encouraged.

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